During the global Corona Virus Pandemic we are facinga tragic loss of life, often under very difficult circumstances, like we have never seen before. Bereaved people will have to deal with increased challenges due to social isolation and distancing measures as well as new government guidelines for funeral services.
In some cases the illness may have progressed and become very serious, very quickly which can lead to feelings of shock and disbelief.
People cannot spend time with their dying loved one or spend time with them after they have died which feels like they have not said goodbye. People are often grieving and are seperated from loved ones due to self and social isolation. They may have other family members that are ill or may have possibly died.
There may be feelings of anger which is common when someone has died under sudden or traumatic circumstances. Feeling angry is an understandable response to feeling out of control, powerless and abandoned. There may be feelings of guilt when someone is bereaved, particularly when we are not with the person when they die and we have not shared any last messages.
You may also feel:-
- Sadness and Shock – You may be going over events leading up to the death
- Disbelief – You may think this cannot be true
- Numbness and Exhaustion – You may feel overwhelmed
- Frightened or Panicky – You may feel agitated or experience nightmares
- A Sense of “If Only” – You never imagined this would happen
- Physical Symptoms – You may sweat, shake, have a headache or an upset stomach. You may have a lump in your throat and feel like you are choking.
You may feel like no one understands what you are going through.
If this has affected your life practice good self care:-
- Eat Little & Often
- Get Some Fresh Air & Sunlight each Day
- Keep to a Daily Routine
- Seek Practical Help
- Talk to Family & Friends
Corona Virus Funerals and Memories
Due to current restrictions during the Corona Virus pandemic this means many people are unable to attend funerals, cremations and wakes. This is a very distressing reality for thousands of people at this time.
If you are attending a funeral:-
This will be different. It is likely to be a shorter service with social distancing measures with restricted numbers of mourners.
If you are unable to attend a funeral:-
Funeral services are now being streamed or filmed enabling you to have your own private and personal goodbye at home.
Ways to pay your respects to your loved ones if you cannot attend their funeral
- A Special Place – You may like to set up a special place in your home or garden where you can sit and remember.
- Plan an Event – Arrange with family and friends at a later date to do something special to remember your loved one.
Remember if you feel like your grief and feeling of loss will never end or you will never be happy please know there is support out there from national and local bereavement services.
Please do not struggle alone.
If you feel I can help please call me on 07828 054098 or contact me through Sandra@sandrasandraosullivan.co.uk.
I can help with counselling either with a face to face, telephone or Zoom session.