Children & Young People During the Covid-19 Pandemic

Children will be affected by what is going on around them at this difficult time. The school routine has changed, there is a lot in the media about the virus and they may have picked up worries and fears over elderley or vulnerable family members.

For children who have been previously been bereaved the anxiety may be worse. If you are isolating as a family this could mean that activities which may help children manage anxiety are now not available.

How you can help a grieving child

  • Talk honestly about facts and emotions in an age appropriate way.
  • Explain the illness is often mild and most people recover but sadly some people will die.
  • It is okay to say sometimes we do not know all the answers to their questions.
  • Keep to a routine – Schoolwork, mealtimes and bedtimes.
  • Stay in contact with friends.
  • Explain distancing measures and the importance of washing hands.
  • Limit media exposure as this can be overwhelming.

Please do not struggle alone.

If you feel I can help please call me on 07828 054098 or contact me through I can help with counselling either with a face to face, telephone or Zoom session.

Supporting a child or young person with grief and loss.

When a family member or close friend dies this affects everyone – Adults, Young People and Children alike.

The child’s reaction depends on –

  • How close the person was or what the person meant to the child.
  • If the death was sudden.
  • The circumstances of the death.
  • How the family are dealing with the death.
  • What support is available.

How different ages understand death.

There is no hard or fast rule, it has been said that grief for children is like “Jumping in and out of puddles”.

Pre-School Children
Pre-School Children often see death as temporary and expect the person to return. They may ask when the loved one that has died will be coming to visit next or what they might be getting them for a birthday or Christmas present.

From around 5 years old
Children from the age of about five years old see the separation as permanent but will wonder where the dead person will sleep and what they will eat as they struggle the with concept of permanent loss.

From 8 to 10 years old
These children often think they are to blame for the death, e.g. because they were naughty. They may even feel that there is an issue that had not been resolved prior to their loved ones death that an adult may regard as trivial.

Teenagers understand death the in same way as adults do but they will often find it hard to put their feelings into words or may not want to show their feelings to others as they do not want to upset or worry those close to them.

Some children will negotiate grief and loss with the love and support of their family and friends, for others they may need professional support.

Possible signs that a child or young person may be struggling.

  • A long period of sadness or depression.
  • Total loss of day to day activities.
  • Withdrawing from family and friends.
  • Prolonged inability to sleep, loss of appetite or fear of being alone.
  • A sharp and prolonged drop in school performance.
  • Acting like a much younger child.
  • Denial about the death.
  • Talking repeatedly about wanting to join and be with the dead person.

Do not forget, if you think your child is struggling to deal with a bereavement professional help is out there.
To find help there are national organisations such as Childhood Bereavement Network or Winston’s Wish and your GP can also help and give advice.

Please do not struggle alone.

If you feel I can help please call me on 07828 054098 or contact me through
I can help with counselling either with a face to face, telephone or Zoom session.

Bereavement Due to Covid-19/Corona Virus

During the global Corona Virus Pandemic we are facinga tragic loss of life, often under very difficult circumstances, like we have never seen before. Bereaved people will have to deal with increased challenges due to social isolation and distancing measures as well as new government guidelines for funeral services.

In some cases the illness may have progressed and become very serious, very quickly which can lead to feelings of shock and disbelief.

People cannot spend time with their dying loved one or spend time with them after they have died which feels like they have not said goodbye. People are often grieving and are seperated from loved ones due to self and social isolation. They may have other family members that are ill or may have possibly died.

There may be feelings of anger which is common when someone has died under sudden or traumatic circumstances. Feeling angry is an understandable response to feeling out of control, powerless and abandoned. There may be feelings of guilt when someone is bereaved, particularly when we are not with the person when they die and we have not shared any last messages.

You may also feel:-

  • Sadness and Shock – You may be going over events leading up to the death
  • Disbelief – You may think this cannot be true
  • Numbness and Exhaustion – You may feel overwhelmed
  • Frightened or Panicky – You may feel agitated or experience nightmares
  • A Sense of “If Only” – You never imagined this would happen
  • Physical Symptoms – You may sweat, shake, have a headache or an upset stomach. You may have a lump in your throat and feel like you are choking.
  • Loneliness

You may feel like no one understands what you are going through.

If this has affected your life practice good self care:-

  • Rest
  • Eat Little & Often
  • Get Some Fresh Air & Sunlight each Day
  • Keep to a Daily Routine
  • Seek Practical Help
  • Talk to Family & Friends

Corona Virus Funerals and Memories
Due to current restrictions during the Corona Virus pandemic this means many people are unable to attend funerals, cremations and wakes. This is a very distressing reality for thousands of people at this time.

If you are attending a funeral:-
This will be different. It is likely to be a shorter service with social distancing measures with restricted numbers of mourners.

If you are unable to attend a funeral:-
Funeral services are now being streamed or filmed enabling you to have your own private and personal goodbye at home.

Ways to pay your respects to your loved ones if you cannot attend their funeral

  • A Special Place – You may like to set up a special place in your home or garden where you can sit and remember.
  • Plan an Event – Arrange with family and friends at a later date to do something special to remember your loved one.

Remember if you feel like your grief and feeling of loss will never end or you will never be happy please know there is support out there from national and local bereavement services.

Please do not struggle alone.

If you feel I can help please call me on 07828 054098 or contact me through
I can help with counselling either with a face to face, telephone or Zoom session.

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